All of the previous 8 steps have been disconnecting your belief systems and energy from the narcissist, and now it is time to sever the connection to the narcissist’s energy so that he or she will never have the ability to destroy your emotions, self worth, and suck your happiness and life force out of you.
This healing step is powerful because it allows you to cut the chords energetically with the narcissist.
Some people do try to 'tie cut' the narcissist by using energetic visualizations and specific severing techniques at the beginning of their healing journey, but because the narcissist did come into our life for very powerful reasons - to heal our unhealed parts - is is vital that we work on our Inner Identity and unhealed parts first, before attempting energetic tie cutting.
If we don't, not only will the mental, emotional and psychic bonds with the narcissist continue, because it is our unhealed parts the narcissist can attach energetically to, we will also miss the incredible opportunity to heal the parts of us that called forth and allowed us to endure a narcissistic abuse experience - if we just try to keep tie cutting the narcissist instead.
This is why releasing and healing the connection to the narcissist is the second last step.
Energetically releasing the narcissist is about vibrationally letting go. It is about shifting one's energy from the narcissistic hooks into the divine state of True Self. In this state you will recognise your innate ability to bring forth positivity, happiness and joy into your own life freely.
It is the reclaiming of our true essential nature that just isn't a match with the narcissist.
During this step you will also let go of all the last pieces of grief, loss and pain. This allows you to freely move forward in your new life without past memories and old wounds resurfacing.
After graduating through this step you will feel intensely indifferent towards the narcissist. He or she just won't matter. It will be like this person is a memory of a memory.
The relief naturally is indescribable.
Many people report after this step that they are filled with energy, joy and purpose and are motivated to start creating a better life. Some people have even felt confident, positive and empowered enough to consider dating again.
As I have already expressed it is important to lay the ground work correctly with the other steps before attempting this step, as ultimately you would need to keep repeating it over and over again with only temporary relief occurring, as well as need to keep going back to the other steps in order to achieve a permanent shift.
Once ready to, if you apply yourself to the step, it will deliver you out to the other side - your True Self thriver nature - and away from being a mere narcissistic abuse survivor.
Now it's time to release and heal the connection to the narcissist.
This following exercise is a mini version of the Quanta Freedom session 9 - Releasing and Healing the Connection to the Narcissist in the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program.
Find a safe and space where you will feel comfortable and won't be disturbed.
Close your eyes and imagine all the last bits of your connection to the narcissist. Imagine these fragments as a swirling mass in the pit of your stomach. Now imagine sending these pieces up through the top of your head in a tornado spiraling upwards and releasing them to the Universe.
Imagine that this has cleared 'inside of you' a space, a space that can be filled with your True Self nature.
Now imagine a ball of light above you. Know that in this light is your divinity. It is Source Energy, life force, love and well being. Imagine a pipeline going up to this ball of energy, and drawing the energy down the pipeline into your being.
Fill yourself up with this energy.
Now imagine a little you - a smaller version of yourself. He or she may appear as a miniature version of you as an adult, or he or she may appear as a child.
The little you is your wounded inner child, the part of you who has been hurt. Pick up your little you and fill him or her up with the Source Energy, and then cuddle him or her into you, and let him or her melt and become at one with you inside you.
You can repeat this exercise as many times as you wish until you no longer feel any connection to the narcissist's energy.
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