Detaching with Love
It is impossible for a man to learn what he thinks he already knows. -Epictetus
Other people have their own Higher Power and it's not me
I
need to detach with love from those I care about who are still mired in
this disease. I will tolerate the pain of watching. When I detach with
resentment, it is not detachment; it keeps me preoccupied and connected.
When I amputate, it is not detachment; I develop phantom limb. I still
hurt where that part of my heart used to be and am haunted by something
missing. When I detach by ignoring, shunning, or running, it is simply
the other side of enmeshment, and eventually I get hooked in all over
again. Today I will detach with love and I will allow others the dignity
of their own path. I am grateful to have found recovery. If I teach, it
will be by example. When I see someone I care about locked in this
disease, I want to run and help. I want to tell them what to do to get
better. But time and again, this hasn't worked. In fact, it usually
blows up in my face. Today my emotional sobriety allows me to have
perspective and to let someone else recover at their pace, not mine.
Today I can model recovery quietly and steadily.
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