REFLECTION FOR TODAY: When a person really wants something, that person is likely to go to any lengths to gain it, even through negative behaviour. Many times we do things we later regret, then wonder why we responded in the way we did. As we learn about ourselves and our behaviour, we see how rationalising (and sugar-coating) our actions had become a way of life and how often we were drawn toward experiences which could hurt us. This can be called the enormity of our illness. Left to ourselves, we often continue to act out defeating behaviour. With the help of the program, a Higher Power and others, we realise we do not have to be controlled by our impulses.
May I stop, reach out for support and trust that a friend can help, discontinue hurting myself.
I deserve to be happy and productive.
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Motivated by Care
When it comes to helping, if you’re not motivated by some degree of caring for the person, it’s better not to speak at all. We have the potential to be messengers of the Light for others, which is why it feels so good when we can help people – the Light is flowing through us.
But if we want Light to shine in our words, we must be the Light.
What is Light? Love.
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Look at a tree, a flower, a plant. Let your awareness rest upon it, How still they are, how deeply rooted in Being. Allow nature to teach you stillness.
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When a Bad Apple Spoils the Bunch
Because life requires that we interact with different personalities, it is not uncommon for us to encounter a situation where there is one person whose behavior may negatively impact the experiences of others. Someone who is loud and crass can interrupt the serenity of those who come together to practice peace. A disruptive worker can cause rules to be imposed that affect their colleagues’ professional lives. A team member who is pessimistic or highly critical may destroy the morale of their fellow members. And one “bad apple” in your personal life can be a potent distraction that makes it difficult to focus on the blessings you’ve been given and the people who love you.
There may always be people in your life who take it upon themselves to create disruption, foster chaos, stamp out hope, and act as if they are above reproach – even when, in doing so, they put a blight on their own experiences. But you don’t need to allow their negativity and callousness to sour your good mood. Often, our first impulse upon coming head-to-head with a bad apple is to express our anger and frustration in no uncertain terms. However, bad apples only have the power to turn our lives sour if we let them.
If you can exercise patience and choose not to respond to their words or actions, you will significantly limit the effect they are able to have on you and your environment. You can also attempt to encourage a bad apple to change their behavior by letting your good behavior stand as an example. If your bad apple is simply hoping to attract notice, they may come to realize that receiving positive attention is much more satisfying than making a negative impression. While you may be tempted to simply disassociate yourself entirely from a bad apple, consider why they might be inclined to cause disturbances. Understanding their motivation can help you see that bad apples are not necessarily bad people. Though bad apples are a fact of life, minimizing the impact you allow them to have upon you is empowering because you are not letting anyone else affect the quality of your experiences. You may discover that buried at the very heart of a bad apple is a seed of goodness.
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