Friday, 3 August 2012

ROMANTIC SOULMATES vs Traditional Couples

Neytiri always struggled accepting our relation and I think she now understands it better.  The below will highlight the differences between the DREAM and reality(?)....Ish'llah!

Copyrighted Material from the forthcoming book
Kindredness, Kinships, and Soulmate Experiences
by Robert S. Badame, Ph.D. and Shelley F. Diamond, Ph.D.


TRADITIONAL COUPLES                        ROMANTIC SOULMATES

Romance diminishes over time               Romance deepens & permeates over time

Committment consciously chosen           Being together seems like foregone
and must be regularly renewed               conclusion, undeniable inevitability

Wish certain aspects changed, flaws     Appreciated exactly the way you are,
resignedly tolerated                                  including flaws

Need to learn how to communicate and  Communicate effortlessly, understand
understand each other                               immediately, sixth sense of perception

Both feel somewhat mysterious to           Both feel known inside out, whole truth
partner, some things better left unsaid    cannot be concealed or avoided

Fundamental disagreements can            Few fundamental disagreements,
lead to serious arguments                        can argue for fun

Potential for jealousy and insecurity        No one else can compete, bond is
                                                                     unquestionably secure

Challenge is to discover and                    Challenge is to discover and welcome
maintain commonalities, make                differences, make time to spend apart
time for togetherness

Questions: How to get closer?                 Questions: How to get enough distance?
How to live with unmet longing                  How to keep from suffocating
for closeness?                                            in the closeness?

Sex is used as a vehicle to bring                      Sex is an extension of the compelling
each other closer. Momentary                       closeness that already exists. Fluid feelings of
feelings of "oneness" occur                          "oneness" frequently flood sexual encounters.
occasionally during sex.

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