LISTEN, BE STILL....

1^st March 2012 – Neytiri – Go on now. I’m just dying to talk to you.

Patterns.  That’s what I noticed around Neytiri’s conflict. Patterns; we all have them it just needs to be identified.  More on that later.  But, today I’m catching up on my email backlog and came across the below from the Daily OM.  It is so relevant to what is happening in our lives at present.  Listen, be still..the answer is always there, right in front of you.

Moving through Darkness
The Places We Go

Often it takes something major to wake us up as we struggle to maintain an illusion of control.

In life, most of us want things to go to the places we have envisioned ourselves going. We have plans and visions, some of them divinely inspired, that we want to see through to completion. We want to be happy, successful, and healthy, all of which are perfectly natural and perfectly human. So when life takes us to places we didn’t consciously want to go, we often feel as if something has gone wrong, or we must have made a mistake somewhere along the line, or any number of other disheartening possibilities. This is just life’s way of taking us to a place we need to go for reasons that go deeper than our own ability to reason. These hard knocks and trials are designed to shed light on our unconscious workings and deepen our experience of reality.


Often it takes something major to wake us up, to shake us loose from our ego’s grip as it struggles to maintain an illusion of control. It is loss of control more than anything else that humbles us and enables us to see the big picture. It reminds us that the key to the universe lies in what we do not know, and what we do know is a small fraction of the great mystery in which we live. This awareness softens and lightens us, as we release our resistance to what is. Another gift gleaned from going to these seemingly undesirable places is that, in our response to difficulty, we can see all the patterns and unresolved emotional baggage that stand in the way of our unconditional joyfulness. Joy exists within us independently of whether things go our way or not. And when we don’t feel it, we can trust that we will find it if we are willing to surrender to the situation, moving through it as we move through our difficult feelings.


We can take our inspiration from any fairy tale that finds its central character lost in a dark wood, frightened and alone. We know that the journey through the wood provides its own kind of beauty and richness. On the other side, we will emerge transformed, lighter and brighter, braver and more confident for having moved through that darkness.

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In my younger days (and until about 4 years ago) I used to drink to get drunk.  I thought this was “normal” and acceptable.  I had friends who thought the same so this was my reality. When I did my step 4 inventory I noted I got into to trouble a lot and each time I got into trouble I was drunk.  Towards the end I used to blackout the incident, so was not even aware of my behaviour the next day.  I knew, then drinking and me were not friends; I identified the pattern and broke it.  Now I drink for pleasure, if at all and getting drunk is a happy by-product.

We humans are creatures of patterns, so be aware of them. I have noticed a pattern in Neytiri.  She becomes the victim.  Each time she is conflicted about us, she analyses the perceived root cause of it.  E.g. Why did she/he do this? Why so and so happened? If that did not happen then I would not be in this situation today.  She then develops resentment towards the person or event and becomes the victim.  Rather she should stop making sense of it, stop resisting and just accept what is. That’s why the above Daily OM is so relevant!

She told me she realised this when she read at random from the Power of Now; the answer came to her (coincidence?):

LISTEN; BE STILL….

She tells me once she confronted her fears and insecurities around our relationship, she had an intense feeling of peace.  The Force was strong. I could feel her joy and peace and it was the happiest I had seen her! That is the joy of enlightenment & consciousness. Intense joy, peace and love.

She has a deep-rooted mistrust of males no matter how close she is to them.  That’s her next challenge; she needs to dig deep to find out why. Just a suggestion, my dear.

To wrap up, Tsu’tey arrived on the scene so had a chat to him.  I am so very grateful to have them in my life. I once told Neytiri she should thank Tsu’tey from the both of us.

2^nd March 2012 – Jake – I asked God why life’s like this. He gave me no answer. I asked why I’m still here. Again, He gave me no answer. I asked why I met you. He smiled and said, “So there’d be a reason for everything else.”