The Purpose of Amends
Saying
sorry doesn't always mean you admit that you're wrong, it only means
that you value your relationship more than your pride. -Nishan Panwar
Amends keep the goodness of a relationship alive
When
I make a true amends or accept a true amends from someone else, I am
able to hold what is still of value of a relationship. We are both
saying, "This thing we have is worth keeping." When someone makes an
amends to me they are giving me what I need to keep the good alive.
Without an amends, without this taking of responsibility, I am left with
a mistrust, wondering if they realize the power of their own behavior. I
can't right the relationship inside of me. They deprive me of something
I am owed, a recognition. They are not valuing the relationship enough
to humble themselves and ask for my forgiveness. When I don't make an
amends that I owe, this is what I do to someone else. I do not give them
back the part of my heart, the part of my goodness that I took away by
my hurtful behavior. I don't give them a reason to trust my love. I
don't give either of us another chance.
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