I came across the concept of the shadow in my late teens, and it was
then I first realised I may have some repressed anger. I had gotten the message
strongly from my mother that anger was not OK to feel or express, as much in the
way she behaved herself (never overtly expressing it) as anything she actually
said about it.
My anger had been so stuffed down and disowned but was showing up in my first
love relationship with someone who had a lot of pain, and covering that, anger,
both of which he attempted to numb with drugs. I too had that anger, though was
largely dissociated from it.
Some of my most healing experiences have been ones where I travelled down to
meet the darkest places within and experience what was there – the anger, pain,
worthlessness, despair, fear, hopelessness, etc.
These experiences were extremely healing for me, for in travelling down to
parts that felt so pained and bereft, I opened to receive love where I most
needed it. Facing the dark within and my core wounds led to greater
light.
From wounds can come wings, from depths can come heights, all is an opportunity for your life to take flight!”
I found in diving into my pain or whatever dark emotions were there, and the
layers that existed above or below them, I eventually ‘bottomed out’ into a
higher space, lighter emotions, expansion and more love; a turning of the tide
in which I experienced more of the truth of who you I am, more of my love,
essence, and value, and the love that was there for me.
It is a time of individual and collective purification. We are being drawn
now more than ever to take responsibility and bring to light our unconscious
patterns, cycles, and past wounds for healing and addressing any continuing
impact they have on our lives as we more fully wake up to being source, not
subject, of our reality.
On this journey of healing and awakening layers may surface. These may not be
pretty. They may include old wounds, repressed shadow aspects, limiting
beliefs, stories, and negative agendas. In the light of awareness alone these
can dissipate.
You are not your darkness, though in meeting it with love, compassion, and
forgiveness, it can heal and transform. In the process you become more intimate
with yourself, more whole, free and self-loving, and through that more loving
and compassionate of others too.
I have given myself permission to dive into my emotions throughout much of my
life. Through that I have experienced some very dark states.
Paradoxically I have also experienced such ineffable states of bliss I have
been virtually unable to move – what I describe as ‘becoming liquid ecstasy’ and
‘divine union’. In these peak ecstatic experiences every fibre of my being is
flooded with an immeasurable love-beyond-words. What feels like 5 minutes in
this rapturous bliss can turn out to be several hours as time no longer exists.
I’ll share more on these experiences another time.
If you were to experience directly the pure loving sweetness of life’s every breath, you would faint from ecstasy overload.”
I believe that in processing depths of darkness and base levels in my
unconscious I created a reservoir for more light to enter – a deeper
‘container,’ if you like. Entering into my pain eventually led me to realms of
ecstatic light.
Embracing and loving your shadow sides enables you to love yourself more
fully and authentically. It also enables you to be more real with others, as
well as more compassionate and loving as you are less likely to project your
shadows onto others and judge or condemn them for that.
When you judge you project your shadows onto others, when you love you project your light.”
The problem comes when you identify with your shadow as being who you are,
which leads to more repression because you then push away what you want to avoid
about yourself, secretly believing it is you, which it is not.
You are having a human experience and here to live that fully as you are –
the beautifully flawed, imperfect, miraculous you!
It’s not about being perfect, it’s about being YOU.”
I find it fascinating watching what parts of my shadow are coming up at any
given time to own, forgive, accept, etc. It’s intriguing how it happens in
phases too, sometimes with a theme emerging and a repeated trait coming to the
surface in different people I meet, light or dark.
Is there a distinct behaviour that is repeatedly showing its face in your
life at this time to own, forgive, heal or integrate?
Very often with the shadow what is coming to light through the behaviour of
another may not be something you personally identify with. You may have
difficulty associating with it, and it may show up in a more exaggerated form.
It may be hard to identify since it is buried, but if you dig deeper you may
locate it within. I have found some shadow work to reach as far back as
unconscious patterns from previous life-times even.
Look for the quality that is pressing on a button or having a negative impact
in your life. The person whom you perceive has the trait you dislike in your
world may be magnifying the quality that you are denying in yourself, and
bringing it to light to acknowledge, forgive and let go.
As you seek to own a shadow quality, memories or situations come to mind of
times when you have, either to yourself or another, acted or thought in a way
that corresponds with the trait you judging.
I don’t believe the ‘people are mirrors’ concept is simple or
black-and-white. It can be complex. Your experiencing something or someone
‘negative’ may be reflecting beliefs you have about yourself, others or the
world, a story or pattern that is running in your consciousness, a soul-level
challenge or a shadow being reflected.
When it comes to ‘bad things happening’ reasons can be multi-layered and
intricate. In my article “Why Bad Things Happen” I explore some of these.
You also have a “Light Shadow” – positive aspects of self you may disown,
deny and project out onto others.
Who and what do you admire? Are you idealising someone or putting them on a
pedal-stool? What of your gifts, strengths, talents, love, power and qualities
are you projecting ‘out there’ onto another?
If you’re admiring someone else’s glow, it exists within you, own your Light Shadow!”
Love and blessings,When you shine you may light up people’s shadows. Shine anyway.”
Aine
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